Mothers, let's stop rapes.

Open any newspaper and what hits you first is rape! Rape of infant, rape of teenaged girl, rape of new mother, rape of grandmother and God knows what.
And this is happening all over the world. No amount of laws have been able to curb this inhuman and insensitive barbaric act. Also, no amount of education or literacy has been able to put sense in individuals.
At such times, it would be best to go back to how a human being is born. Whether a boy or girl, an individual gets the first touch of life through his/ her mother.

And so mothers, let's get more responsible and do something more than cooking! Let us teach our children the sense of right and wrong. Let us teach our children to protect and take care of younger and weaker human beings. Let's also make food that is not very rich and meaty. Let us also tell our children morally rich stories apart from stuffing their mouths with food, food and food.

This way, let good food and nice thoughts bring forth responsible grown- ups into the world. 

Mothers' let's start undertaking some responsibilities. Yes mothers, first and foremost let's stop rapes.

Freezing eggs. Will children be born normal?

The vegetables I store in refrigerator become stale and bad if not used within 3-4 days. And here, we are talking about storing eggs for quite a few years! Can the scientists say for sure that such children will be born normal and that they will also be normal on growing up?
The very thought is scary and gives me cold shivers. Please ladies, think properly before you take such a step. Since, babies trust their mothers totally.

New Born Vijeta- Triumph over all Obstacles in Life

I may have lifted her, but it was she who lifted me out of my gloom of the past few days. Apprehensions about by father's terrible fall, fears of unforeseen challenges just disappeared into the thin air. A beautiful baby, a cherub, a picture perfect face that stared at me with no preconceived notions. A face free from conceit and arrogance. And it made me feel so relaxed as never before. She seemed to say, "What are you worrying about, when God is there to take care of us?"
As per the horoscope her name had to start from 'V'. And immediately the name that came to my mind was 'Vijeta'- Triumph over all obstacles in life.
This was the family that for a good 12-13 years stayed below us in our Housing Complex. The baby's grandfather, a retired army General and a Doctor met with an accident after shifting to Indore which almost left him crippled. But that apart, there was already a problem. The baby's mother was born with weak kidneys. Resolute to the core, she studied and grew up. With time she also took up a job. She had perhaps never dreamt of getting married. But probably, God wanted her to be married and so came a gentleman in her life who while knowing everything applied the sacred 'sindoor' on her forehead and made her see a beautiful life that all girls dream of.
As neighbours we were happy. And just when we felt that the going was good, there came the need for kidney transplant. That was a period full of tension. And yet the General and his wife did not forget the social norms. They smiled, exchanged greetings and gave friendly advice whenever required. They were a big help when I suffered a back problem and later when I fractured my foot. Frankly, I was always too scared to even inquire about their youngest daughter. They sensed it I guess.
The general and his wife being fond of my physiotherapist daughter confided everything in her. This is how we came to know that their elder daughter's kidney had matched and so a donor had been found. But the transplant was a tedious process with a lot of paper work. Thus, through out the period  the entire family was on tenterhooks.But then God had something in his mind and the operation was successful. We were truly happy for the General's family. At the time of our daughter's wedding we got the happy tidings that a baby was on the way!
And now my husband and I were holding the baby. A small bundle of happiness who refused to listen to the word 'impossible'.After Lord Krishna's story, this was the second instance in my limited knowledge, when things happened because they were destined to happen. Lord Krishna was born inspite of  the fact that both Vasudev and Devki were kept captives by Kansa Mama. Here Vijeta was born inspite of serious health problems and limitations of the medical world.
The family may not be staying in our Complex now. But Vijeta's face is still fresh in my mind. Her cherubic expressions have swept away all the negative feelings that had unknowingly begun crowding my mind. The positive energy has charged me yet again and I feel nice once more. Even otherwise, the baby's mother is out of all dangers and the baby is just fine. So the things are good. Touchwood!

Good Parenting, First. Law and Order will follow.

Too many things have happened in the last one month!

• A 12 yr old girl raped by her own first cousin and his friends for 2 years in Mumbai. Her fault (if, any) was that her parents had divorced and remarried.

• An MBA girl from Nagpur raped in Pune.

• And just when my mind was beginning to come out of that strange numbness, there was the Maoists attack in Dantewada, Chattisgarh in which several jawans were killed.

• Today also the local Indore newspaper carried the news of suicide of a 10th class girl. The girl who resided in our area, was upset about not doing well in one of the papers.

• And then of course, reports of drunken driving resulting in accident and death.

Let's call it enough! The best would be to start giving time to our children soon after they are born. Apart from feeding them well and looking after their physical growth, let's start telling them good stories. And when they begin to read, let's give them small simple books containing stories of heroism, honesty and brother-sister relationship.

I know it is easier said than done. There is a lot of pressure on women to work. Further, all her life, she has to prove herself a good daughter-in-law, good wife, good neighbour, good socialite, etc. etc. But maybe, the time has come to chalk out our own priorities. The rest will definitely fall in place. I think, we mothers need to get tough there. And why mothers alone! Fathers should also understand their responsibilities.

I think my generation has proved to be a total failure there!